Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Well, Today is The Day

I’ll admit it.  I have not necessarily looked forward to this day.  In fact, I put it off for as long as I possibly could.  However, time marches on, despite my objections.  The 12 year-old little boy that I brought home from Eastern Europe four and one half years ago is no longer a little boy.  He is finishing up his freshman year of high school and will be a sophomore in the fall.  Where we live, that means he’ll take driver’s education classes this summer.  We need to get his learner’s permit prior to that.  We are on spring break in our town and we’re catching up on a lot of things we’ve put off.  Today is the day to go for the learner’s permit.

In our state, students can get a permit as young as age 14.  Youngest Son was nowhere near ready for that responsibility when he was 14.  At that age, we were still trying to convince him TV sit-coms and movies were not “real life.”  Back then, he was only recently convinced cartoons were not real.  The boy’s world knowledge was so very limited when we brought him home.  It’s one of those things you’re just not prepared for and just don’t think to expect, but it became our new normal back in 2007.  In fact, we are still finding common knowledge isn’t all that common sometimes for Youngest Son and The Princess.

Our county’s DMV office is a branch office.  Therefore, because Youngest Son was not born in the United States, we need to travel to a state-level DMV.  There are three fairly close by -- about 30 minutes away in different directions.  We are going to the one in the smallest city of those three, hoping we do not to have to wait for hours on end.

He is so nervous.  If you read this post before early afternoon today, will you pray for him?  (And post a comment here that you are, so I can share it with him?)  He’s a smart boy, but he sometimes freezes for tests, even when he knows the material.  I think he can pass.  Man, I hope he passes!  Not passing will not be good, I’m betting, as failure is a major trauma trigger with Youngest Son.

Before we head to the DMV, we have a wrap-around meeting to attend for his therapy and community-based services.  His “graduation” from DBT and other services will be discussed at this meeting and he will be a part of it.  This is the first time I’m allowing him to be included in a wraparound meeting.  I fear I may be setting us up for a hellish evening.  On the other hand, I’m very hopeful for a great day.  He has come so far and is doing so well.

Keep your fingers crossed.

9 comments:

Tamara said...

I will definitely be praying for him. And please let him know (if appropriate) how proud we are of him in how he's grown in maturity in the last 4 1/2 years.

Diana said...

Good luck on all of it, both Mama and son! Prayers going up!

Trauma Mama T said...

I will definitely do that, Tamara. Thank you!

Trauma Mama T said...

Thank you, Diana. We appreciate it.

CherubMamma said...

Praying for all of you!

Trauma Mama T said...

Thank you, CherubMama

Courtney said...

Praying! Also please let him know him know (if you think it's appropriate) that he is a wonderful example for where I hope my son will be in a few years. My oldest (Alex ;)) is in the same place as Youngest Son was a few years ago. The progress Youngest Son has made gives me such encouragement! Way to go!

Trauma Mama T said...

Courtney, thanks for praying. And thank you for the encouragement. I will accept that for him as his mama and be praying for your oldest.

He missed passing by one question. He's appropriately disappointed though, and handling it well. I pointed out to him that he was acting "normal," that it is normal to be disappointed, but that he was doing it appropriately by handling it well. I really think that helped him own the feeling and not be triggered by it. I chalk that up to his DBT therapy and LOTS of work! ;o)

Trauma Mama T said...

We will try again tomorrow.