tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.comments2024-02-14T23:41:47.220-06:00My Life as a Trauma MamaAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09376339735923531053noreply@blogger.comBlogger286125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-70843159835456090482016-02-08T11:36:26.398-06:002016-02-08T11:36:26.398-06:00Foster Mamalion, thank you so much for your commen...Foster Mamalion, thank you so much for your comment. You are an encourager, that is for certain. Believe me, it is not always easy to choose joy. When things get really, really tough, as they are right now with my daughter, choosing despair and anger is a whole lot easier. You can become immobile and every little thing triggers you. I've been there, even recently. Choosing joy has to beAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376339735923531053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-40088493192242126112016-02-05T19:01:20.353-06:002016-02-05T19:01:20.353-06:00I have just now found your blog so I am sad you ar...I have just now found your blog so I am sad you are no longer posting, but happy that your life lived through this is still available. I love this post. I just read an ugly post where other foster/adoptive parents were being ugly and I share that I felt that we should share the truth in a better way. I was not supportive for my views. Everyone said that if they truth hurts then tough. It was Foster Mamalionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17572524951941996773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-44714913745674274072015-12-29T10:23:42.470-06:002015-12-29T10:23:42.470-06:00Dear Tired & Alone - I'm so sorry I didn&#...Dear Tired & Alone - I'm so sorry I didn't see your post until now (12/29/15). This blog has been closed for quite a while and I only just logged onto it today because I'm in the process of beginning a new blog and will transfer some of my articles here (after editing them) to the new blog. I'm so sorry you've gone through these feelings and that you may still be having Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376339735923531053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-11780063911575518722015-12-21T03:24:24.350-06:002015-12-21T03:24:24.350-06:00Thank you. I've shared this on my FB page Musi...Thank you. I've shared this on my FB page Musings of a Crazed Mum (yep I'm an Aussie)<br /><br />After the weekend we've had I needed to be reminded to be kind and gentle on myself. Your blog hit me where it feels! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06164337351463384186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-59087868514839600672015-10-06T08:51:23.142-05:002015-10-06T08:51:23.142-05:00Thank you for your honesty in painting a very true...Thank you for your honesty in painting a very true picture. I thought I could deal with all of this but now that we're into the fourth month of adoption probation with an 11-year old boy, I'm really not sure we're doing the right thing. My husband and I argue constantly (except when we're pretending that everything is okay in front of our son and friends). Everything is not okayTired and alonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03811092910902367369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-73800038408876986652015-08-20T12:56:43.485-05:002015-08-20T12:56:43.485-05:00Thank you Trauma Mama, for this thought-provoking ...Thank you Trauma Mama, for this thought-provoking post. As an adopted person, this one really hit home for me. My heart goes out to your children and all the kids out there who've suffered birth and childhood traumas.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14785075403203117761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-6959250437905323872015-08-10T06:58:13.210-05:002015-08-10T06:58:13.210-05:00Nice post informative article keep doing this amaz...Nice post informative article keep doing this amazing job.<br /><br /><a href="http://assignmentfirm.com" rel="nofollow">Assignment Help</a>Assignment Helphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14055154027344362664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-74442341885564313202015-07-08T10:50:10.961-05:002015-07-08T10:50:10.961-05:00Courtney, how wonderful! Running is indeed a good...Courtney, how wonderful! Running is indeed a good thing. I don't run, so I've been chalk painting furniture. It gets me up out of the chair and gives me a sense of accomplishment. I get to use a little creativity, too. We are moving as well, but within the state. Our purchase was a bit smaller -- 2 acres. Email me sometime and let's catch up with one another.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376339735923531053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-19202544853283916752015-07-08T10:34:07.480-05:002015-07-08T10:34:07.480-05:00I will miss your posts but I understand. We're...I will miss your posts but I understand. We're now in Colorado and just bought 35 acres so our kids will have more room to run. Running is a good thing for us. Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13677010442934664757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-83551577275512479972015-03-05T12:21:32.998-06:002015-03-05T12:21:32.998-06:00I did see the Wretched video - just last week, in ...I did see the Wretched video - just last week, in fact. It's good to know I'm not the only one who is struggling with the Church's lack of support for families after adoption.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376339735923531053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-29905310894762321252015-03-04T11:56:49.021-06:002015-03-04T11:56:49.021-06:00I'm sure you've seen this video by now. I ...<br />I'm sure you've seen this video by now. I think it is a good companion to your above comments..<br /><br />http://blog.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/face-video-help-children-rad/Michele Feinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587675014031543450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-13009166759856036872015-02-28T13:12:06.244-06:002015-02-28T13:12:06.244-06:00Excellent post Trauma Mama. I am a grandparent rai...Excellent post Trauma Mama. I am a grandparent raising my grandson's and my second grader brought home the timeline project. The teacher really wants them to start with birth. She said then after that it is ok to jump to 5 events since he has lived with you. I am not sure if that is a good solution either because most of the other kids will have those years filled in. Also, he just was JessieGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11220008438583789309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-88077450668943685462015-01-23T09:57:00.990-06:002015-01-23T09:57:00.990-06:00Melmat1216 - I'm always willing to try to help...Melmat1216 - I'm always willing to try to help. Check your email!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376339735923531053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-91373724980804285732015-01-23T07:53:54.436-06:002015-01-23T07:53:54.436-06:00Thank you for this, if u have time is like to ask ...Thank you for this, if u have time is like to ask you some ?s I have about our 11yo, adopted internationally 4 years ago. Please email me at melmat1216@yahoo.com. Thanks! (Regarding iep/504 teacher stuff)melmat1216https://www.blogger.com/profile/14426971272911187344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-83547280003708854222014-12-29T13:29:38.009-06:002014-12-29T13:29:38.009-06:00Yes yes Yes to every word. Yes yes Yes to every word. Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11138252587098641619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-31491751014672794742014-12-19T18:27:38.097-06:002014-12-19T18:27:38.097-06:00I consider myself a christian but do not attend ch...I consider myself a christian but do not attend church. I have two adopted children and your blog resonated with me especially the this part:<br /><br />"If you're considering adoption, know your child may never be able to love you. Your child may never be able to fully attach and may always have a sick push away/draw near/push away harder relationship with you. Know that there may Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16123536632034049785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-30635108023047141722014-12-19T08:49:23.810-06:002014-12-19T08:49:23.810-06:00Wow. To have someone put into words exactly what o...Wow. To have someone put into words exactly what our post adoption experience and feelings have been is both validating and heartbreaking. Thank you. Can you make another blog using just the "If you're considering adoption" part you have written here that describes how it effects all involved? Thanks!Carl and Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14238824271422849914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-77431869224405284522014-12-18T11:02:56.147-06:002014-12-18T11:02:56.147-06:00Alex Chase and others who "got it," than...Alex Chase and others who "got it," thank you. This is something that has weighed on my heart for a long time, and while, as 5collins2011 pointed out above, not all churches are the same, it is INDEED American Evangelical Churches on the whole who have pushed adoption as orphan ministry. Too, TOO MANY people who should not have adopted did because of this culture. Yes, adoption has Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376339735923531053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-64410071845072329952014-12-17T09:41:55.885-06:002014-12-17T09:41:55.885-06:00For almost a year, I've been agonizing over wr...For almost a year, I've been agonizing over writing on this subject. Thank you for doing it. I can only imagine how draining it was for you (as I didn't even have the emotional energy to gather my thoughts, once, over the past twelve months). Necessary, and draining. Thank you. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09478637327547349697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-53169328867657013052014-12-16T10:25:22.341-06:002014-12-16T10:25:22.341-06:00Thank you for writing this post. A sister in our c...Thank you for writing this post. A sister in our church forwarded it to me. This sister is one of those rare people who haven't walked the same path we have but gives us the love we need so desperately. She doesn't judge, just asks what she can do to help. She is such a blessing! We are one of those familys who are doing the unthinkable, disrupting, because our son cannot live in our homeSandra Zimmermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00848022860630877810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-1947863763727216212014-12-15T21:55:39.793-06:002014-12-15T21:55:39.793-06:00Please be very careful when you write posts to the...Please be very careful when you write posts to the evangelical church at large. I have been a part of megachurches and small neighborhood churches. Some have adoption ministries, some do not. But not all churches are the same! I am now a part of a large church that does an Orphan Sunday service, they have partnered with ShowHope to help families fundraise and give them support during the Juneau&Kenaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01412213550875284585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-28429896109531002022014-12-15T13:39:33.043-06:002014-12-15T13:39:33.043-06:00I wish more Christians would adopt. However, I ag...I wish more Christians would adopt. However, I agree that many adopted children have trauma issues and we need to be more open about that. Extended families and church families don't understand the issues of adoption. I will say that I never felt pressured to adopt. In fact, I had some people try to dissuade me from adopting older children. So, not all churches are giving people guilt Christine Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09105391262429669001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-27033197657182033662014-12-15T12:46:15.036-06:002014-12-15T12:46:15.036-06:00I totally agree! We adopted from China and while ...I totally agree! We adopted from China and while our daughter is doing fine and really well right now, it was a four + year road to get to this point of physiological health. We adopted as a calling and have 3 other children. I also cringe at the push to adopt out of the foster care system in the USA. Yes, there are some wonderful success stories, yet there are many stories of total Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14337055056397742664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-69964913885418406962014-12-11T10:52:04.328-06:002014-12-11T10:52:04.328-06:00Dear Trauma Mama T-
That took guts. And since you...Dear Trauma Mama T-<br /><br />That took guts. And since you are a Trauma Mama, as I am, I know you've got them. I still believe in the beauty mixed with the agonizing sorrow that is found in and along the adoption road. I do feel there is a need for us to allow God to place the solitary in families, our families. But, the Church has GOT to do a better job of preparing those who adopt and forAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08086877776936211136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950958699663796602.post-18789874522728215912014-12-11T09:39:39.864-06:002014-12-11T09:39:39.864-06:00Hi Mama T,
I came to your blog through FB today...Hi Mama T, <br /><br />I came to your blog through FB today. I am not intimately involved in international adoption, but know many families through our who have taken this path. Two are close friends and they have had positive experiences. <br /><br />I am in my forties, have two biological children and am adopted. I was adopted locally and as an infant, obviously a LONG time ago. My Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15691639983430272093noreply@blogger.com